men love their sports.

get in the game.

Off the cuff & straight from the hip...

beware of the rant...these thoughts are not carefully put together in any particular logical sequence...


men are not as stupid and defenseless to women as many of them make themselves out to be...a lot of times we (women) have to deal with a road we paved to bad intentions by ignoring the windows of opportunity to tell the truth or observe it..."You were looking soooo good last night baby...I wanted to--" Is really him asking you whether or not the door is open to talk about sex, see what type of woman you are, (does she laugh it off *insecurity*, does she stand firm and tell you she's not that type of girl, or does she admit to having the same sexual feelings) and which direction he will go from here. This is the nature of a man's test. We often think they can't smell the desperation, seduction, loneliness, excitement, and bullshit...but they do...at least, not a man who is looking for Mrs.Right...Mr.Right will always reject Mrs.Anygoodmanwilldo...

Men are not easily controlled, but those who like to be, pretend to be. They tell you what they want you to know. I honestly believe any man who is "caught" doing anything, has already made it up in his mind that he doesn't care about getting "caught". He wants to be.

Where is all of this coming from you ask? While visiting a male friends myspace page...I had the pleasure of hearing the Jamie Fox song "I don't need it". Hooooooooooot...where have I been? Anyway, how many of us women have (at some point) thought that having a man meant using "tactics" and booby traps, instead of actually having something tangible to offer?

These past couple of weeks I had the opportunity to observe the actions of other men. I told myself, "Self...be observant...be still...listen...and play the game." Men have games of their own. If we as women can eliminate the ideal that all men are simply sex crazed and easily manipulated, we will understand the way they really think. Society tells us what (most) men like on a physical level, drills it into our heads to buy this product for our hair, another for our skin, another for beauty, another for weight loss...these products are made to enhance the way we feel about our image and hopefully the way others view us which in many cases...attracts people to us. I think that many of us spend too much time developing an outer image that will hopefully attract someone to us who is easily influenced/and or handicapped by the superficial.

I believe the man and his "chase" is symbolic of the work he will eventually put into the relationship, the art of keeping his woman and whether or not she can be easily captured by any man who glides along into her life.

So in short, let the brother chase you, take your time, and don't be an easy prey willing to be conquered...